YABJAYA | Self Love

Be You. The World will adjust. 




YABJAYA! {You Are Beautiful Just As You Are!}


365 Days of YABJAYA | Self-Love

OMG. I just read something, and as I was reading I had a thought: When you turn 4/5 years old, you begin going to school 5 days a week for a certain number of hours a day. Then you graduate and either go to a job 5 days a week for a certain of hours a day or attend another school, then go to a job.

So we were trained to sit, be bored, look forward to weekends as relief from the 5 days a week, all to “earn” your place in the world by way of having the ability to float pieces of paper around to attain stuff so that everyone else knows you’re successful.

It doesn’t matter that you may be absolutely miserable, hate what you do, and spend countless hours away from the people and places you love in order to “earn” your place in the world, because having more and more stuff makes you valuable?

Then when you wake up one time and really put your life under a microscope and starting looking for an M-A-P {for everyone who saw this video, you’ll know what I’m talking about} to get out of the situation and live your life a different way, You’re called crazy, a dreamer, lazy, weird, conspiracy theorist, etc….

When the reality is no one on his/her deathbed says, “Geez, I wish I spent more time at work!” No one says that. However, people do wish they had more moments with friends and family. They do wish to live an authentic life being who they wanted to be instead of who they were told to be.

Why truly are Art, Music, and Physical Education/Recess being cut from schools? Could there be a correlation between those things and the number of children diagnosed with ADD/ADHD? Maybe just maybe they need to expend that energy during the day or channel that energy into creative endeavors.

Why is the definition or perfect example of insanity not the quote so eloquently stated by Ellen Goodman: Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work, driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to a job that you need so you can pay for the clothes, car and the house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it.

The older I get the crazier it drives me. Yes, I understand it as a means to an end {or “seed money” as I’ve been calling it}, because my children have a wonderful habit of liking food and living indoors. As I study and understand more, the more questions I have.

How many wonderful ideas that could change the world lay dormant in great minds too clouded with day-to-day survival or an insatiable appetite to do things they don’t want to do in order to have the ability to buy stuff they don’t need to impress people they don’t like? Or they are afraid of what others might say, think, or do, because the idea seems outlandish, impossible, etc. But no one told them that: no one sees the same things or shares the same vision. Your gifts, your ideas, your talents are yours. And yours alone, because no one can execute them in exactly the same way you can or do.

If that doesn’t describe you. Fine, because it doesn’t describe me either. I checked out of that game years ago. Yet, I meet people, with dreams and plans. I love when I see those dreams and plans manifest themselves into reality. I love hearing the stories and the journey to create those things.

I’ve come to realize over the years that all I really want is to be happy {which I’ve learned how to be, so we can check that off the list}, have wonderful human/spiritual experiences, converse with “Strangers”/fellow travelers/seekers/dreamers/innovators, find an eclectic culturally diverse beach town with great beaches and crystal blue or emerald green water, and good health. For those of you thinking what about your family? Your children? Living that life, they will be happy, healthy, well-rounded, human/spiritual beings, too! They are happiest during those experiences or our “adventures” {Thanks Yo Gabba Gabba}.

Those are my thoughts this day as I focus on being a better me and how I can serve to make this world a little better than I found it.



YABJAYA | For The Ladies | Self-Love & Relationships

The Secret: You Are The Prize!


Some men will have you believing that he is the prize in the relationship. He will tell you that you should be thankful that he choose you from amongst the sea of available sistas. However, he fails to see and understand that the choosing was mutual, because you also chose to be with him.


You are precious, because without woman humanity would cease to exist and every man you meet is born of woman. He was nurtured and nourished in the darkness of a womb. So you see dear one, yes women outnumber men on the planet. Yes, men are revered and placed on pedestals the world over. You can chase rainbows. You can chase your dreams. But make him chase you, because you are worth it. 


In every great story, the hero must win his beloved’s heart and hand. He must prove his valor and worth. The right one will step up to and exceed the challenge treating you like the Queen you are, and treat you with the same dignity and respect with which you carry yourself. It won’t be perfect. It will require work. 


The relationship is a compliment not a completion as you are already whole. Have a wonderful loving relationship with yourself. He will affirm what you already know You Are Beautiful Just As You Are! You don’t have to sell it or convince him of your worth. It will radiate in the glow of your eyes and the confidence in your stride.